Monday, March 28, 2011

A line in the sand

It's 2:00am and for the first time in my marriage i have left our bedroom to sleep on the couch; I am that angry. I put my head on my borrowed pillow in an atempt to sleep, and this sentence pop into my head: "you always draw a line in the sand". Used as an ingenious manipulation tool by a sociopath ex, who was indeed extremely intelligent and extremely right. I always do draw lines in the sand. On this side of the line lies my couch and on the other side lies our bed. A line in the sand.....

11 comments:

Néphèle said...

I've been told that, too. That I always draw a line in the sand.

The only thing worse than the fact that it's true (and this is why I kicked so much when they told me), is who I had to hear it from. And that I have to remember them & acknowledge how right they were every single time I find myself doing it.

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What's up with yoga? Have you managed taking it up again?

Herlock Sholmes said...

:)

poshlemon said...

I hope it's been resolved. You have a man you love and a marriage and that's precious in these times we live in. Just make sure that you don't take it for granted and always work on fixing and discussing your differences.

Said with lots of love.

Faisal said...

Hope everything works out for the best. If you're willing to take advice from someone who's divorced: Don't build walls too early.

N said...

Nephele: no yoga yet.. :((

Posh: received with lots of love :)

Faisal: you got divorced?? when??? danta metgawez ma3aya! what happened? :((((

Faisal said...

About a month and a half ago.

We shouldn't have gotten married - too bad it's only hindsight that has 20/20 vision.

If this was a private conversation, I would have mentioned details... bas mesh 3awez afda7 nafsee 3al internet.

Suffice to say that it was a SERIOUS breakdown of acceptance and communication. Wana estahbelt bardo [in how I dealt with things, but nothing more sinister than that.] :)

N said...

I am so sorry to hear this. Really.
I hope it was for the best and you are both ok...

we have had to work very very hard to get out of this rut. talks till 4am every day for a week. we were very close to using charts and pens so not to lose track of the map of the root of the problem and its branches.

marriage can be hard... and i am unable to brush by things, i have to work through them.

we're ok now but i am so sleep deprived!

Herlock Sholmes said...

Use xmind (www.xmind.net) for those long sessions and for keeping track of the root issue.

you'll thank me.

Hum, or maybe that's too much to ask

Faisal said...

As long as you "keep your eye on the ball", everything will turn out for the best :)

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